Hi, I'm Alessandra.

I've always been drawn to the things people don't quite know how to talk about. The desires, fantasies, contradictions, and questions we sometimes struggle to share even with the people closest to us.

Since I was a teenager, I've been the friend people come to with questions about sex, relationships, and desire. I love creating space for conversations where you don't have to edit yourself, defend what you want, or worry about being judged.

I'm curious about the full range of human experience, especially the parts that don't fit neatly into the lives we've built or the stories we're told about who we're supposed to be. My own experiences with identity have shaped that curiosity, alongside a longstanding interest in sexuality, desire, and the many ways we can choose to love and relate.

I spent ten years as a tech executive before realizing that the questions I couldn't stop thinking about were fundamentally human: what we want, how we connect, and how we navigate the tension between who we are and who we think we're supposed to be.

My curiosity has taken me from studying at Oxford to apprenticing with a master dominatrix in New York City.

Today, I work with individuals and couples exploring sexuality, desire, intimacy, and connection. As a mom myself, I'm particularly interested in how parenthood changes our relationships with our bodies, our partners, and ourselves.

I'm currently pursuing sexuality counselor training through Sexual Health Alliance and serve on the board of the Relational Gestalt Practice Foundation. My work brings together curiosity, creative exploration, and a grounded, nonjudgmental approach to sexuality, desire, and connection.